Really?

These two memes above are extremely disturbing. I don’t like anyone talking bad about females or trash talk our gender like it was a minor?
I’m not the typical female that laughs at males jokes about women; I will just stare at you and judge you and think you are a dick. I’m a woman and I do my best to respect my fellow humans equally. I don’t understand how this whole extreme habit of belittling females, how it has become even huge than it was before?

They get angry when they don’t get their will through, and I have many examples of that and usually slap it on peoples face because ffs sort you out. If females behave the way you guys do, fucking hell – we get judge from all different angles there are.  
It is 2019 and the mentality of many surprises me, we are still getting demand by cave men to do this and that?

Although, don’t get me wrong – I’m not gonna try to fight with my all soul to change these men. We would just have to find other ways to get what we want in life. We need to find other ways and not let men demand and dictate what we should do and what we shouldn’t do.

I’m trying to ask myself if I’m the one being too sensitive, yes I want to say that I’m very much so but I have also remained quite in many occasions to just analyse the situation and see if I’m exaggerating. Reality is that I’m not exaggerating and men are crossing boundaries.

Examples of crossing boundaries

One engineers in the last building I was working, he asked me if I wanted to spoon with him? He was practical new at the office, so why even feel so comfortable? He did not even thought about being respectful or asking me my name. In situations like this, I’m asking myself is it because I’m black and he doesn’t give to flying fucks or is he just belittling my whole gender? As a black woman, we think about all possible ways. Not react has been my go-to but still hard to not react when people cross boundaries.

Second example was one of the security men; he slapped me on my bum. When I asked him: what the fuck? Don’t do that. He even excuses himself and said: oh dear it was the back on my hand? I was so baffled and thought WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU? None of your bloody flesh should touch me or be near me without me asking for it.

Third example is old; I think I have mentioned it previously.
I’m leaving a club in Sweden – Stockholm, wearing a short black dress with a coat on. I’m walking up for the escalators, and I feel a hand grabbing my pussy like our dearest Donald Trump told them to. Obv, this was way before but same mentality. In this example, there are two happenings.
After this twat did that, I literally run crying to my boyfriend back then. He didn’t even react, he thought I was overreacting? So this is what men think of women, we are overreacting. Our feelings are not being considered, only theirs. Only their time, wages, job, life, etc is important.

Fourth example was recently at work.
It is all about them, they are all men.
Yesterday, I was sitting by my desk and all of the sudden the lights were super bright. The reason to my glasses is because I have extremely sensitive eyes to lights. The only light that is good for me is the natural one, but too much brightness in an office is too much mate. Anyhow, I quietly said ahh my eyes hurt because it is too bright. I got back: shown two fingers and a comment with: up yours? This is what a grown ass man said to me. We are in a working environment and this is the way certain men talk. I’m not the only person these men try to belittle with their jokes, if you are a woman with principles that kills them and they will try to do everything to belittle you even more. Have in mind that these men, they are extremely insecure and there are not many men that respect females the way we should be respected but there are a few who still appreciates us and want us the best.

Fifth example, but how females ditch each other.
When I was younger I used to be a bit fussy with certain things, I was all over the place but was very shy in many things. I wasn’t as crazy as people made me look like. I didn’t take disrespectful jokes as good as the others, today I joke about everything with me BUT that doesn’t mean I GIVE YOU PERMISSION to joke. Have that in mind.
Anyhow, female friends used to tell me to not mind it, “aah maria it is a joke”. How many rude jokes about your own gender do you have to hear until you raise your voice?

I don’t get these types of females. I don’t understand females that sit there and say: FEMALE EMPOWERMENT but you still judge another woman you barely know? You still hold your phone and scroll through and compare yourself – you still troll on other people’s business.
I don’t like you and you aren’t empowering anyone.

Reality is that females wont win as easily, we need both genders in order to grow our population, expand our genes, new generations etc. We need both genders. No doubt.
How do we do with this issue? I mean do we report when things like this happens? But when you report things, even the females are scared and say: oh well, it wasn’t that bad? Well, in that case we should normalize everything men do to women? Well, staying at home with the kids (believe me I’m overprotective and I will stay at home because it is my choice), not having a free time, a wife should cook, etc etc. I know we are more caring them men when it comes to our children, not all but majority.

We are expected to do so much, to take so much, to be strong, to be the weakest, to be classy, to not do this and that. Really?
I’m actually upset because I see this daily, and people go blindfolded instead of speaking up. By being silent, you allow them to do whatever they like. We actually are saying it is ok, you can behave like a dick but because I’m a woman I wont say anything. Great.

Be aware of the men you have around you, be aware of the females supporting men that take advantage of you being a female. No one should be abused in any way, male or female. I actually respect people equally, and of course will always have the back of my females. I’m being bias but I’m also logical and respectful.

The two memes above are disturbing because this is what males expect from females. Have it done and ready without being exclusive (and even if we are exclusive). And the worse thing is that men who have the time to demand this from women, they are the ones with less to offer.

On top of that, with the second meme. Where men talk about girls feet, okey you don’t scare us. Females talk about your hygiene, size, shoes, height, hair, breath etc etc. We roast you more than you think. The only way to get it back? Lol don’t get it twisted men, we females have our own ways of cussing you. We just don’t broadcast it out to the whole social media and let others laugh of the imperfections of us females. The difference between females and males. Caring was the worth. Considered was the other word. Empathy is what we give you. Are our females being considered the same way? Are we being listened without being belittled or blamed for being extra?

I struggle a lot and I’m not gonna lie. I’m tooo honest about my feelings and I hate pisstaking. I did struggle a lot in one office with one male. He talked to me like I was his forgotten daughter. I’m nice and I don’t like to make people feel bad, or at least what I think about myself. Someone might have different opinion.

Anyhow he talked to me so rude and I was like it is enough. I literally went hard and say don’t talk to me like that. I saw other females laughing at their jokes, obviously making their life easier by agreeing. I get that but I don’t do that. There are times when I’m quite and think: please don’t let me burst of anger because people are belittling us women.

I won’t be able to win with people, specially not men. I’m not talking bad about men, I’m with one and he is decent enough hahaha. Don’t get me wrong regardless a man loving you and respecting you, he will still at some point same some shit silly things that in his man world is normal. Or maybe just not a biggie.

I don’t put myself in a position to fight any men, hahaha no I ignore or just say don’t talk to me like that. I think that is enough from me. I don’t have to explain for a man how wrong what he is saying is. They know, they are aware, they are not stupid – they pretend to be stupid. I don’t say hi to them and I ignore them. There is no point to give them your time if they behave like idiots to you and your gender. We females shouldn’t spend time smiling or feeling scared of men. Stop with that. I have always been a person that when someone does me wrong, I ignore so religiously that I will probs make you doubt your own existence. Easy.

Now females, don’t let any man speak to however. Young females don’t let a man demand what you should do in bed, or how you should be. Women, we need to start having boundaries. We can’t let men disrespect us like that, in all kinds of ways. Be firm and let them know that – a report will be sent.

Men need to stop being so comfortable and continuing with the disrespectful approach they have to us.

How much more do we need to protect ourselves daily? How much fear do we have to walk with every night? How much less money do we have to earn for a change to happen? How many more rape reports do we have to report in order for a change? How much more so we can be taken seriously when shit happens to us?

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